Comments on The Realms Away Struggle (Personal Vent)

I know I’m coming in here late but it took me a while to try and articulate my thoughts so here it goes I totally understand being overwhelmed and feeling like you’re alone, I couldn’t imagine the stress and exhaustion running all of this by yourself would bring and how that could turn you sour against your own project. Often times the longer I feel like I let things sit the more I being to see the faults in my own work and wish to completely scrap them. It’s times like this I always like to remind myself of that cake meme (this one https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQQphY9T10Hzk3X6nSX31v0HeL5KI6Ifiw9DVYgJTy1lxSUAZHcZ4gQ7yQ&s=10) I feel too often we get accustomed to what we do well and only focus on our mistakes. We spend so long looking at our own works under a microscope we forget that most people from the outside will only look at the big picture. They see our strengths far more than our weaknesses. But I know from experience you can say these words until you’re blue in the face and have people shout it in your ear but that won’t stop your brain from believing whatever it wants to believe. Ultimately it does come down to whatever you feel like you would be most comfortable doing. If it does continue to cause you stress and deep discomfort to continue running the site (as is or at all) then do what is best for your well being. I would encourage you to really sit down and think about all the outcomes though. I know it’s easier said then done, by try to seperate yourself from the doom-and-gloom mindset. I would hate to see you regret something because you tried to be like the other sites. Realms away is yours, from its very foundations to the skin it wraps itself in, your creative influence has touched every corner of it and shaped it in your image. Don’t ever feel like you have to cut it, trim it and force it into the shape of all the other sites. That being said, I want to talk about my personal experiences with Realms having help run a site like it and being on other humanoid ARPGs. One of my favourite things about it is the options of species to use, including the generic ones! I strongly dislike sticking to one species and my worlds are a blended mess where planetary travel and inter societal conflict is commonplace. It’s a very strong need of mine to have different species with different societies interact, and having that being a foundation of the site made me really excited. Your world building gives just enough to spark inspiration but not enough to feel controlling and rail-roady. I find myself wishing other sites had more variety, I even find the free humans really interesting! I do completely understand how that could be very overwhelming, I’ve had to give up my hopes of having my own site and personal species due to the workload dex, lock and kipis have given me, and I work with a good amount of people! The fact you were doing everything before, INCLUDING MONTHY events completely blew me away when we started. AND maintaining a job? I wouldn’t have lasted a second, you truly are a Wonder Woman. That being said as a user I personally don’t mind if every species is spotlighted, I can build the generic species up enough on their own with my own ideas and headcanons, so long as they can participate in the events I’m happy as a clam! I suppose the earlier cake meme applies here too, I don’t care if they’re rough around the edges I’m just happy to have some cake. Oop this was already way too long, I said I would write an essay and I did. I guess I will cut it off here, but just let you know that you are your own, the community you have forged over the years is yours. Do with that what you will :)

2024-10-03 00:16:37